I think I was verbally abusive with my ex...but I just wanted to make it clear about no contact. What u think?

My ex of 5 years who yelled at me in front of others, cheated on me with other men online, and gave me the run around about going to counseling (basically said no)....got into my e-mail account and is upset I'm e-mailing other people (after we broke up). I went OFF. I said that she wasn't even remotely worth my time because I dated someone at the bottom of the barrel in every way possible (not getting into it to not offend anyone). Anyway, I get this voice mail that even though she loved me she realized she couldn't commit to me. I understand. If I'm already hurting, why dig the wound deeper? I basically told her off and said everything possible so she GETS IT that it's truly over and the chance of being friends is pretty much nonexistent. While I'm not proud of my behavior....I've just had enough........and I didn't see any other way for her to LEAVE ME ALONE ALREADY....I know you don't love me....but don't hack into my e-mail account to see if I'm dating other people (even though she did that DURING our relationship)....Did the means justify the end? Sometimes going crazy on someone is the only way they ';get it';. Specially when they are nuts themselves...spoke in her language....you fight crazy with crazy....But I'm still pretty depressed about the whole thing....did I do the right thing?I think I was verbally abusive with my ex...but I just wanted to make it clear about no contact. What u think?
NO you did not handle it right!!!! You should have talked to her at all!!!!! You already know there is nothing positive she has to say to you!!!!!I think I was verbally abusive with my ex...but I just wanted to make it clear about no contact. What u think?
Wow - she sounds psycho! You were fine, but you need to erase her from your life. Erase her name from your phonebook, erase her e-mail, delete your account and start a new one with new passwords, change your locks, etc, change your phone number........whatever it takes. Don't stoop to her level and continue to argue with her though....move on and don't give her the time of day to respond. Don't feel depressed about yelling at her.... move on and never speak to her again.
whatever it takes to get the point across.
If you think you did I suppose so.
I don't know if the ';means justified the end';; that's a Machiavellian concept best assessed by philosophers and folks with a vested interest in your situation. I can see it was cathartic for you, though. So, based on the amount of pain you endured from her, I think it was ';good'; that you got that off of your chest. She'll survive. But do yourself a favor: don't wallow in the bitterness. It will make moving on that much harder. Good luck to you.
While going crazy on someone is not ideally the best way to handle any situation, you acted emotionally and that's that. The thing about the words you may have used that would trouble me is that it was cruel, and you seemingly aren't cruel. So it's going to stay on your conscience. Try to just be more rational in the future, for YOUR sake. But for the future, keep her out of your life(and email account).
Yes, if you are dealing with a nutjob, you must speak in terms they understand, otherwise they just won't get it.





Now what you have to do is to cut off contact with her completely. Change the password to your email.
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You did the only thing you really can do in this situation. Don't worry about it. Its is really not worth a second thought.
If you didn't handle it the way you wanted, at least now you can think through what could have been done or said differently so that if you face a similar situation you can act in a way that you ARE proud of.





I'm not an ends-justify-the-means sort of person, really. But I do understand when you say crazy doesn't hear anything but crazy.





Everyone makes mistakes, so learn what lessons you can, resolve to handle situations more maturely and then forgive yourself. Congratulations on realizing that the drama was just unnecessary to your life. Life is just too short for all of that. Good luck! :)
Although you may have took it too far with the offensive remarks going crazy on her was prabobly what she needed you to do.
You wanted and needed that closure. It's sunk into your head but hasn't reached your heart yet. It will. And when it does you will be able to live in peace and harmony with yourself. At least until the next vixen comes along and breaks your heart also, But always remember the first cut is the deepest. And no matter what you will survive.